blogging Controversial subjects

Same sex marriage

Blog 1

Isn’t getting married supposed to be the happiest day of your life? So why should the sex of who you marry have an effect on this. I think that falling in love is out of your control, the person who stills your heart is the one, and if this is between two males, two females or a man and women it will have the same effect.

The definition of marriage is critical in itself, 'the legally or formally recognized union of a man and a woman (or, in some jurisdictions, two people of the same sex) as partners in a relationship.', I think it’s appalling that the definition has the words 'same sex' in brackets which suggests to me that it’s a side comment as if it’s something to be ashamed of or abnormal to having a heterosexual relationship. But this has only been the case since 2000, before then there was no mention of same sex marriages, so in a way there is some improvement but I think there is still a long way to go.

During childhood we all know our wedding day is a recurring dream that excites us, but the question of who we married didn’t matter then so why should it matter now. The day can be just as perfect whether you share it with your gay partner or not. However the catholic religion is against this as they believe Adam and Eve were created for the reason that only men and women should marry each other.

People criticise people in a same sex relationship that want or have children. Although having a child in this situation is unable to happen naturally why does this make them not fit to have their own child? The child would still receive the same amount of love and care it would get from a mother and a father with two mums or two dads. Even though this would make them different to other children they may know, they would be the ‘same’ as them. Life has adapted to people not being able to have children naturally with IVF, sperm donors and even adoption can come from a same sex partnership.

I think it’s good that TV programs are introducing the same sex couple idea, in shows such as Eastenders, and goggle box. It is letting the younger generation become more exposed to the situation which will help them understand that a same sex relationship is just as normal as a heterosexual one.

I think it is right that same sex marriage is legalised as it captures the love of two people that were forbidden marriage due to their sex. Marriage for some is the promise of their love so why shouldn’t this be for a couple of the same sex?

People may say this is a typical feminine view and maybe they are right but to this day I still dream of this, a big white wedding with my wife and I being able to now legally marry.

Blog 2

I believe that same sex marriage shouldn’t be legalised as I have grew up around the idea of men and women being together, not men and men or women with women. As a fully grown man I don’t think it is right for children (especially my own) to see this as they have a mum and dad and could become confused by why some ‘dads’ kissing other ‘dads’.

Being brought up in a church England school I also see the religious side to it; I believe that god made Adam and Eve to produce live on this earth, which is carried on by men and women having babies. This isn’t possible in a same sex marriage as it doesn’t mirror the way god created the world. it’s said that those who don't agree with the same sex marriage (like me) believe that 'same-sex relationships are immoral and against God's will', this is important to them as they believe that God gave women the responsibility of adding life to the wold and that this is their main duty in life. Many other religions discard same sex marriages and I believe they are right to do so.

Regarding getting jobs I agree with the fact that people who are in a heterosexual relationship shouldn't be first in line to be offered a job as it could be off putting to customers that they are talking too as it is uncommon for them to see. The may present behaviour that is related to being heterosexual which could be off putting for people they come in contact with, resulting in a company loosing sells and reducing their income. Being a manager myself I have taken my own advice and when I interview a possible employee I do ask what their relationship status is and what gender they are interested in. From experience I know this benefits my company as my takings are high and consistent.

Promoting same sex relationships in ways such as using them on the TV and in adverts isn't setting a good example for the future generations, they should be taught that the norm is to marry the opposite sex and that is the only/right thing to do. By putting this in the media (which has a big influence on younger children these days) they would become so familiar with this then it would seem right for them to do it, when it isn't and should be prevented.